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Post by Caliber on Jan 22, 2013 8:48:42 GMT -5
I decided I wanted to write a piece on the world of online dating. So, I joined jdate and OKCupid. I'm not really looking, or expecting much, I'm just doing all of this for the article.
Man, it is SLIM pickings out there. Almost every woman's profile is exactly the same. They love to laugh, they love to make people laugh, blah blah blah. To make the article interesting, I've msged ones that some what piqued my interest, and so few of them msg back. Or they msg back the absolute minimum. I find that odd, because I only msg girls whom I have a ton in common with, and not to be an ego, but I'm a fairly decent looking guy whos in better shape than 95% of the population, who's a talented musician & writer. Weird stuff.
Anyone else do online-dating?
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Post by scottyflamingo on Jan 22, 2013 18:21:01 GMT -5
I tried eharmony, but I'm in hicksville so you have to cast a pretty big net. Met one girl who was cool, but she was in Nashville and the distance thing didn't work.
The only 2 worth your time are eharmony or Match. eharmony is more for people looking for a spouse or long-term thing.
What I really wish is that they had a site to find geek girls. Like you have to score high enough on a test about comic books and movies. Most of the girls are boring as shit.
In the end, if you find someone, move it to the phone and in-person as quick as you can so you don't get catfished.
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Post by Caliber on Jan 22, 2013 20:49:59 GMT -5
Man, it's so true about how boring the girls are.
It's almost like they're photo copied. They all love Chuck Palinuck, they all love Wes Anderson and their favorite movie is Eternal Sunshine...it gets so boring, and so monotonous.
However, like you basically said, the geek girls are the most interesting, and the ones I'm always after. Having a website like that would rule. I'm shocked there isn't one.
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Post by parallax1978 on Jan 22, 2013 21:50:52 GMT -5
I have a lot of experience to add to this... but it will have to wait until tomorrow... I just took back bumps for 2 hours straight... #pain
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Post by scottyflamingo on Jan 22, 2013 22:17:00 GMT -5
I have a lot of experience to add to this... but it will have to wait until tomorrow... I just took back bumps for 2 hours straight... #pain Cool! Give us the update in Wrestling too! Back to topic, I WISH I'd see girls that liked Wes Anderson. The ones around here are as stereotypical as they get. Chick movies only, read Nicholas Sparks, watch Dancing with the Stars. I don't think women realize how many guys they could get if they just branched out a bit. |
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Post by Caliber on Jan 23, 2013 8:05:35 GMT -5
I know.
The funny thing is, growing up with everything you see on TV & movies, and hear in life has you taught that all men are commitment phobes, and are so confusing.
That couldn't be further from the truth. Almost every single guy I've ever met or talked to is all about being with one girl, and not fucking around in the dating scene. Women however, are about as anti-monogamous as you can freaking get. They love the attention in the dating scene.
And guys being confusing? What a load of horseshit. All a girl has to do to win a guy is make him food, have half a freaking brain, and full admit to digging sex just as much, if not more than him. That's all it takes.
Yesterday I msged a cute brunette who said she dug comics. I asked her who would win, Batman or Captain America. I expected a short answer, but she actually gave me a detailed paragraph as to why Captain would have the advantage. So, who knows, may have found a decent one. We'll see.
Where are you from Scotty? From your description of local women, I'd have to guess some place sunny.
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Post by scottyflamingo on Jan 23, 2013 8:55:42 GMT -5
Alabama.
Hang on to that girl. I'd be ecstatic if I got a paragraph about Cap and Bats.
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Post by Caliber on Jan 23, 2013 12:45:36 GMT -5
Alabama. Is it really as backwoods & racist as it's made out to be?
The thing is, women usually respond once, and that's it. I'm really not sure what it is. I don't know if they're intimidated, or what.
So I haven't heard back from the comic book chick. Perhaps she just doesn't get online often.
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Post by parallax1978 on Jan 23, 2013 13:07:18 GMT -5
Good catch... though I disagree with her conclusion.
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Post by parallax1978 on Jan 23, 2013 14:19:56 GMT -5
LOL @ "I'm better looking and more interesting than most people... but I don't want to sound arrogant"
I online dated for a long time (OKCupid being the one I had the most success with) with mixed results.
Bad Experiences:
#1. Met one girl on OKC found out that we were both going to an upcoming concert... talked for a while and shared similar interests. Managed to miss each other at the incredibly packed concert but agreed to go out sometime soon. Met, had coffee, a decent conversation but found her to be an insufferable feminist... and she must have found me equally unappealing because we never spoke again.
#2. This one is my favorite. I sent a short message to an only moderately appealing girl asking what city it was I could see in the background of her picture she said "Why don't we go out and talk about it!" so I figured fuck it and agreed to meet her somewhere. I go there... and wait... and wait... and wait... and get stood up. About 2am that night I get a message from her saying she was sorry she had something come up and didn't have my number and could we try again the next day. I figured I could get some sympathy sex out of it so I went for it and we decided to meet again at X time/place. She called me 1.5 hours before the pre-arranged time to ask me if I wanted to come meet her now. I told her sure I'd be there as soon as I got ready. While getting ready she called me back and asked me if I had a friend I could bring with me because she was there with her sister... I told her I didn't on this short of a notice she said ok. A few minutes later she called back again to confirm if I was on my way. I said I'd be there soon. A few minutes later she called AGAIN to ask me if, while I was on my way I could pick up a pack of cigarettes for her AND her sister... at this point I figured I had enough, I text her told her I wasn't coming, added her as a DO NOT ANSWER in my phone, blocked her on OKC and use it to trump most bad date stories.
#3. This one is not nearly as long. Exchanged a few emails back and forth with this girl, seemed okish but nothing special, but I figured I'd give it a shot. One day she messages me with "Well its been nice talking to you good luck" I asked what was up and she said "This is taking too long! I can see when you log on and you don't immediately respond to my messages!" I called it a day right there... if she is that controlling that quickly this was doomed anyway.
Good Experiences
#1. Saw some girl on a friends Facebook who was SMOKIN hot so I of course creeped her profile and found we had a lot in common (same thoughts on religion and politics, same pop culture stuff etc...) so I friended her, and eventually messaged her and told her why. We talked a lot and it was great and then we eventually went out and it was crazy awkward for some reason... we didn't talk for a while after that but eventually started chatting again and have gotten to be pretty good friends... and frankly if it didn't work out (Superman forbid) with Mrs. Parallax1978 someday I would take another swing at it.
#2. Messaged a girl on OKC who was good looking enough and interesting enough to drop a quick note to. Chatted back and forth for a while and I figured out from one of her pictures that I had a friend in common with her which I used to torment her for a while. Never ended up going out with her at that point and thngs kind of petered out. I then moved to PA (I am from SC) for a campaign I was working on... and this seemed to turn her on to no end as she would send me naked pictures of herself the whole time and tell me she couldn't wait to fuck me when I got back... but when it came to put her mouth where her mouth was she would always back out as she apparently had a boyfriend. I eventually scheduled another time to go out with her and she stood me up as she apparently was still living with the guy but no longer dating him or some other nonsense. I didn't talk to her for quite a while after that... but we eventually started talking again and have gotten to be decent friends, she mas since gotten engaged and had a baby.
The Best One:
I saw that a girl who was hot, but looked kind of mean had looked at my profile but hadn't said anything... I usually take a pass when this happens but I didn't have a lot going on at the time so I decided to message her... her profile didn't have a ton of info so at first I didn't know how to strike up a conversation... until I saw that she had a tattoo of Darth Maul on her right shoulder so I used that to transition into a conversation about Star Wars and martial arts etc... we talked on OKC then on the phone that night and non stop for the next few weeks. I met her after about 2 weeks... along with her son which was kinda scary for me but I dealt with it. We spent more and more time together but I felt like things were developing slowly and I was in danger of falling into friend zone... but then I had to go away for work for a few days and she really seemed to dislike that and when I came back all of the distance and potential friend zoneness was gone. The relationship grew from there and I even got to where I loved her kid as well... and after a while I decided I didn't want to date her anymore... that is why I now refer to her as Mrs. Parallax1978, we have been married for a year and a half now and it has been pretty great most of the time.
Hopefully that wasn't tl;dr and you didn't bail out half way through. ;D
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Post by Caliber on Jan 23, 2013 14:42:18 GMT -5
I love reading stories like that. Especially the bad ones. I'm hoping to snag a few crazy bitches as to make the article more worth while. It'll be really interesting if I actually meet a girl worth going on a date with.
For me, I'm too afraid to date a girl with a kid. Those situations can get so fucking messy. I mean, I would be heart broken if I got attached to the kid, and the mom ended up being a bitch. I wouldn't want to do that to the child either. I'm glad to hear everything worked out for you though, that's awesome.
You know, I wish you'd have bought them those cigarettes, would have loved to see how that would have all panned out.
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Post by parallax1978 on Jan 23, 2013 15:05:41 GMT -5
I had a bad experience with a step father and swore I would never date a girl that had kids... but as I got older I found that if I wanted to date anyone over the age of 23 I was most likely going to have to accept that they were going to have kids... even though I preferred that they didn't. Fortunately the one time I did it seems to have worked out.
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Post by scottyflamingo on Jan 23, 2013 18:32:22 GMT -5
Awwwwwwwww. That's freakin sweet Lax.
Now I kinda wanna get back in the scene so at least I can bring some funny stories to the table.
And if I know Cal, he was rooting for you to get the Penthouse Letter 3 Way with those cigs....
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Post by parallax1978 on Jan 24, 2013 7:57:45 GMT -5
LOL... I honestly doubt it would have come to that if she felt like she could kick me around and make me run errands for her before I even met her...
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Post by Caliber on Jan 24, 2013 11:55:26 GMT -5
Haha, maybe that's what she does when she wants something. She's too lazy to go to the store, so she tempts dudes with sex, and then before they come over she gives'em a shopping list. Then when they get there, oh snaps she has a headache or something.
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